Embodying 18 years of expertise, Rachel Fleischman has been training in several healing arts including; Body-Mind Psychotherapy, neuropsychology, somatic psychology, mindfulness meditation and expressive art therapy.
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Anxiety and depression is one of the most common reasons people come to counselling.
If you suffer with these maladies, your world can feel like you are living in a dark hole. You may not have the energy to find your way out.
Therapy can help. You can feel better.
“My mind is like a bad neighborhood. I try never to go there alone.” ~Ann Lamont; author
Depression stinks. No doubt about it. Having treated dozens of individuals with depression over the years, while reading countless books on the treatment of this “noonday demon”, I still believe that the number one factor that really enables me to get to the heart of this malady is my firsthand experience with it. That’s right. Not only am I a psychotherapist, I am also a bonafide client as well.
“The mind is a terrible thing to watch.” ~Ann Lamont
I agree. Imagine if we had a scribe in our heads, even for a day. I know I would be ashamed to think of what mine might write.
What folks may not know is that there are very useful tricks we can use to alleviate a sour mood. The brain is plastic. It is the last part of our body to really know something. When we tell our brain that life is awful and we are doomed, our brain tends to agree. So, I compiled “Top 10 Tricks to Kick Depression out of Bed, and Snuggle up with Joy Instead.” Write these down, stick em on your wall, and put them in motion.
First trick: Get out of your head and into your feet The body craves movement. Exercise really works. Let’s not think of it as exercise though. Nothing is gnarlier to the depressed person than imagining him/herself at the gym in ill fitting sweats, panting on the stair master while svelte athletes are bopping around in all directions. As Woody Allen says, 90% of success is showing up. Once we’ve got our walking shoes on, once we get endorphins cooking, the doldrums have less power to penetrate .
Second trick: Turn on music! Now! I recommend that my clients have an arsenal of inspiring and fun music at their fingertips. I have even been known to make CD’s for my clients. When we’re depressed, the smallest task feels overwhelming. If I can kick-start someone’s joy, then I am thrilled.
Third trick: Turn on the light and sit in the sun. Many of us work in windowless cubicles or offices, and wonder why we feel blue. This time of year, when the sun sets earlier, we must ‘s dark out in autumn and winter, get a light, get some sun, get some more sun. And if there is no sun in your world, then buy a full-spectrum light.
Fourth trick: Hang out with 4-leggeds. (Unless of course, you’re allergic) Having an animal companion near can instantly release oxytocin, that magical hormone that we secrete when we fall in love, give birth, or are nursing. It releases a feeling of goodwill, or trust in the world. OK, so not all of all are blessed to be in love all the time, or be breast feeding, so I recommend my clients find other ways to bring on the joy chemical. Read on.
Fifth trick: Change your thoughts. Right now. We have more than 70,000.00 thoughts per day. 87% of them are negative and are the same thoughts we had yesterday. Experiencing joy is a deliberate choice. Joy takes practice. Joy is hardcore. I use realistic affirmations, which, at times are posted all over my room. Notice I said realistic.
We must remember that affirmations don’t make something happen, they make something welcome. People tell me, “I put an affirmation up on my bedroom wall, saying: “I am ready to meet a gorgeous, successful, charming man who will adore and worship me.” It’s been 3 months. Where is he?” I tell them; “You have made yourself more open to meeting this human. Finding him is another story. Sorry.”
Sixth Trick: Follow a joyous lifestyle. Choose joyous entertainment; find a class, a workout, anything that gets you in your body, preferably sweating a bit.
Seventh Trick: Affirm joy with words. Rudyard Kipling said “I am by calling a dealer in words. And words are by far the most powerful drug in the world”. It may seem trite, but changing the way we speak can be extremely influential in changing our moods.
Eighth Trick: Grab hold of a goal. Make it a do-able one. Happiness and joy come from goals. We mustn’t put off our lives.
Ninth Trick: Cultivate a relationship with the divine. We are whom our higher self wanted to experience. There is some truth to the pithy phrase: There’s no aetheists in foxholes. Have a smidgens of faith and the world can be a gentler space.
Tenth Trick: Choose joyous companions. When we are depressed, we take our somber, sluggish selves wherever we go. It can be very . We need company. We need intimacy. It is very important to be around authentic people. We need someone who believes in us. No nay-sayers!